It’s long past the time when any logical person can use this excuse. We’re too aware of the problems inherent in reporting. They’re documented, they’re real, and they’re often horrific.
If you want your voice to be a part of the discussion, make sure it isn’t saying something so damaging that it negates any remaining value from your discourse. Like, you know, “Go to the cops.”
One thing that comes up over and over in discussing rape and how to stop it is the role of the criminal justice system. Advocates for survivors are adamant that survivors don’t have to report and don’t have to use the system. Many other people, for various reasons, think that survivors have an obligation to go to the police and prosecute. Some of these people are well-intentioned, and others really just want to say that any survivor who does not report should be ignored. I’ve written at the greatest length about this specifically with reference to kinky communities, where the “cops or STFU” brigade is not well-intentioned, but rather mostly composed of people who know full well that successful prosecution is almost impossible, that contact with the police will be affirmatively awful for the survivor, and just want a rallying cry to shout down all survivors.
I won’t repeat…
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